I may never get married. I am only attracted to the wrong guys. I like guys with charisma - like my dad. Apparently, a lot of girls like this type of guy, but unfortuanately, this type of guy usually likes a lot of girls. And I have to admit - my dad is not hurting when it comes to women. (My parents are divorced.) He gets plenty of them.
I like the smooth talkers. I know that when a guy is talking smooth, he is probably talking trash. My dad is definitely a smooth talker. I have seen (and heard) him in action. Trash.
You would think that we women like the trash talkers because we actually believe what the guy is saying. That we believe that we really are ‘the one’ for him. That we really are the most beautiful girl he has ever seen. That he really is ‘developing some deep feelings for us. But now, I am thinking that is not the case (for me, anyway). I like the smooth talkers soley, because of the smoothness (trash).
And only if they really are smooth. I don’t like the “Hey, do you want a friend?” I am thinking: What are you going to base the friendship on – the fact that you are attracted to me? Some deep relationship that will be. Some guys just right off the bat, ask me for my number. “Ok, guy. Even though I don’t know you, nor anything about you – not even your name, but here is my home telephone number. I look forward to your phone call.” Yeah. Right. But, obviously, some girls respond to this. Otherwise, why would guys try it. Sorry, I am not one of those girls.
I like guys that walk with confidence, like my dad. Wherever he goes, people stop to speak to him. Why? He doesn’t drive a fancy car, he doesn’t live in a fancy house he doesn’t even have to be dressed nicely - but people are drawn to him - because of his walk – or shall we say: swagger. Well, it also could be because he is attractive. I may be biased, but I think my dad looks pretty decent for an old guy. He has a bald head and a white (or silver) goatee. In any case, people speak to him like he is a mayor - and he walks like it too. I am definitely attracted to guys with the swagger.
However, neither of these qualities are useful in a successful relationship. If anything these qualities can hinder a successful relationship. How can I grow with a guy that only wants to say things to make me feel good - and not be honest enough to tell me the ugly truth. And, if a guy has a pretty decent swagger, he is attracting a lot of women – that can not be good for the relationship.
Hence my conclusion, I may never get married, unless I change my taste or meet an upright-smooth-talking-swaggering-honest-to-goodness-Christian.